How do you become a man? How do you feel that you are a man?
Is it the first time you got drunk or had sex?
Is it about military service, the 'gang' you were in, your first paid job?
Is it about your first long term relationship, your first child, your first divorce, ...?
Maybe it is in the academic or material? Your degree? Your promotion?
What are the criteria, capacities or actions against which to verify your manhood?
And who are the witnesses that can certify your progress and achievements?
Who will recognise that you are really a man? Women - your wife or lover?
Your children? Your boss or peers at work? Your father?
Which of these hold the values for which you would like to be recognised?